Oh the accuracy . I was going to just post this meme without any text, but as usual my writers brain kicked in and I was compelled to elaborate. When I saw this image, my entire dating life flashed before my eyes. This month for me marks 9 years straight of being single. Might sound a bit extreme but some going inward, self reflection and healing had to be done. That and you know, being stubbornly independent 😆
This image below was a common problem I encountered. Seeing what a person potentially “could be” instead of what they actually were. Looking at a caterpillar and seeing a butterfly. Sounds innocent enough, until you come to the stone cold realisation that your relationship is actually a threesome type scenario with both Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde.
While we might recognise and want to nurture the good in a partner, help them harness their light so to speak, don’t forget that if doing so involves you being abused or treated badly, that while trying to assist THEIR spiritual growth, you may well be impeding your own. Especially if one of your lessons is self worth. Of course there’s an argument to say it’s an instance where you’re the teacher soul for them, but chances are if you’re willing to accept being treated badly, there’s a lesson in it for you too.
I think the best we can all do is be insightful, discerning, and recognise what we are being shown and taught. Be grateful for the lessons and move onward and upward.
And if you’re a lone wolf like me, or been on your own for a while, or even newly single. Think of it like this. You’ve been given an opportunity to become completely who you are. Just you becoming you. No needing to compromise or appease the other person in your relationship. You’ve got time and space to purify your own energy, go inward, heal, face any demons, shed and transform any stagnant or negative energy, and raise your own vibration, so that when you do eventually meet a life partner, it won’t be a toxic relationship or someone you attract because they need to heal you or you need to heal them. It will be someone who simply matches your frequency.
A frequency you’ve worked hard to achieve.
Like the saying goes, magical people don’t just appear in your life. You have to earn them ✨